Posts Tagged ‘Tendency’

How to deal with negative thoughts

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

What can you do to deal with negative thoughts? What do you do when other negative things happen to you? Perhaps the same thing will work for negative thoughts.

When you get dirt in your mouth, do you swill it around and savor it? I most certainly do not, and I’m pretty sure you don’t either. You spit it out, right? If the taste is really bad, do you just grab a mouthful of some other dirt,  to swill around in its place?

If you’re like me, you probably try to rinse you mouth with whatever liquid you have handy that is safe to drink.

If you knew you would get dirt in your mouth a lot, you would probably keep something you like handy to get that taste out of your mouth, wouldn’t you? If you didn’t, you would look pretty silly.

You don’t just swallow the dirt, try to internalize it either, do you?

Although you can probably try to limit the amount of dirt that gets in your mouth, you can’t eliminate the possibility of something going into your mouth that that sets off your taste buds in a negative fashion. You can of course reduce the risk, the amount, and the number of chances, but unless you live in a bubble and are fed the same food through a tube, you will have this risk.

Why is it then that when negative thoughts come, and they do come to everyone at some time or another, the tendency is to swill it around and savor it rather than spitting it out – letting go – and rinsing your mind with something to get that bad thought out?

Now you will have to proactive this a bit to get good at it and be prepared with your “brain rinse”, but it will work and work fast with just a little effort at first.

Stop now and choose your “brain rinse”. Pick a thought that is positive, about a success you have had, and make it as clear and precise as you possibly can. It can be a really long though. That’s no problem, and here’s why. After you have run the thought through in preparation a few times and refined it to some very specific images, emotions, and posture, choose a keyword or phrase from your brain rinse that out and use it as a trigger. Run the thought from the trigger, and continue to run it faster and faster.

Any time you find a negative thought creeping in, use your trigger to run the good thought and boot the negative thought. Remember you cannot replace something with nothing, so be prepared. It sounds simple, and it is. You will find your “brain rinse” will begin to come to you easier and faster as time goes by, and soon it will be an automatic response. Give it a try. You will banish those negative thoughts and get more done.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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How to Manage Weaknesses

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

If you are human, and I’m thinking you probably are, you have weaknesses. You also probably know about them.

You also probably worry about what to do about them, and even worse you most likely spend a lot of time working on them. What you really need to be doing though is managing those weaknesses.

You also need to be careful not to spend too much of your time, energy, and resources thinking about them. While everyone has weaknesses, the successful in life do not spend a lot of time worrying about them.

The people who become successful are not those who have no weaknesses. They are also not the ones who just ignore them either.

It doesn’t really matter what awards you may have won or what you and everyone else sees as your personal or professional strengths. It is inherent human nature to instead focus on our weaknesses. “I’m not good at organizing” or I’m poor at keeping a schedule” or whatever your personal weakness may be.

We also tend to live in a sort of anticipatory fear of that weakness creeping out from under the bed and dragging us into the abyss despite our known strengths.

The tendency for many then is to focus on bringing our weakness, perceived or real, up to an acceptable level. Or worse, completely ignoring our strengths while trying to bring a weakness – that may just be something we are never going to truly overcome – up to the same level as our strengths.

The end result of this all too common approach is that our strengths are unused, and we become exhausted and discouraged by focusing on our weakness. You should never sacrifice a strength to improve a weakness. Never.

Since it is not in our nature to actually be able to ignore our weaknesses, what should we do then?

Think of it in terms of a professional athlete or even better as a professional team. All teams have strengths and weaknesses. These teams that reach their successful goals are the ones who first clearly define both sets of skills as either strengths or weaknesses. The coaches then game plan to enable an approach to the game that allows them to use their strengths and limit the effects of their weaknesses.

Notice though they may try to eliminate the weaknesses they have by replacing members of the team, once the roster is set, they are no longer trying to eliminate them but are instead simply using their strengths to manage the exposure of and to their weaknesses.

You have to be able to do the same in a sense. Defining your strengths and weaknesses first, and then choosing and approaching goals and tasks based on implementing your strengths leads to your best chance for success. It also gives you’re your best chance for satisfaction rather than disappointment due to another failure chalked up to your weakness.

Everyone has their weaknesses. The successful are simply those who focus on their strengths and manage around their weaknesses.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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Blessed Are the Humans Who Have Made it Their Goal For Self-Improvement

Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009

Finding one’s true self has to begin somewhere, and it usually begins when we take a mindful look at our own lives and assume responsibility for overcoming that feels limiting. Often a rich and fulfilling life begins when we choose to overcome an addiction, disruptive tendency, harmful behavior, or intense self-criticism.

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My Appreciation of the Classic Tao De Jing, by Stephen Mitchell

Saturday, June 27th, 2009

The Way explained in Stephen Mitchell’s Tao De Jing is a beautiful way to view what is, and makes perfect sense. In our modern world we have a tendency to take life so seriously that we have trouble realizing that it is only a game. Winning or losing really does not matter. Lao Tzu lightens the load for all of us…

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How to Keep Your History From Repeating Itself

Friday, June 12th, 2009

Do you feel that your life is just one endless repetition of the same-old routines, and that nothing ever changes? The study of history shows a curious phenomenon: we have a tendency to repeat the same mistakes. It’s as if we have learned nothing from the past. Why is this so and what can you and I do to prevent the same thing happening in our daily lives?

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