Posts Tagged ‘Disappointment’

I have negative thoughts

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

Everyone has negative thoughts and doubts. Everyone. Do you think you are better than Mother Theresa? While the image most people have of her is one of constant kindness, humility, and hope, she famously admitted that there were times, more than a few, where she had negative thoughts and doubt not just about herself but even the Church, God, and the world and work she had done and was doing.

That may come as a shock to many people, with the 50,000 thoughts a day that the average person has, it is no wonder that at least some of them are going to be negative or less than positive or productive.

Having negative thoughts is not the problem in and of its self. Having them and then focusing on them, feeding them even, until they are the prevalent thoughts you are having is a problem, and all too often a totally paralyzing one at that.

Starting off with the proper mindset that not all your thoughts will be positive or productive is an important first step. No one expects all the traffic lights to be green on their drive to work, but still we are disappointed when they aren’t or even when they may all be green but one or two.

Does that really make any sense at all?

Granted, most people don’t agonize over the fact that one of the lights was red, but still that moment of negativity, disappointment, and even anger pops up even when we know deep down that the lights aren’t going to all go our way.

Usually those thoughts lesson or disappear as soon as you hit the next green light. But what happens if you hit two red lights in a row? There is often a snowball effect. Heaven forbid you should hit three or more in a row. From then on you are just blowing through the green lights that do come while strewing over the red ones in the past and looking ahead to when the next one is surely going to come.

Silly, isn’t it?

The same thing happens with negative thoughts. Even when we hit good thought – good thought (green light – green light), it only takes one negative thought to completely wipe out the good you just experienced.

Accept that negative thoughts will come. Let the negative thoughts pass and look for tyour next positive thought as soon as possible. Unlike green lights, positive thoughts are something you can control. You can even prepare them ahead of time to pull out when you need them.

We are not quite at the stage where you can prepare a green light to pull out whenever you need it, but till then, get your positive thought ready.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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Are you trying to sneak up on success?

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

Should you be your best or do your best? While that may sound like a pair of really essentially similar questions, they are actually quite opposite each other in some very important ways. The first, be your best, is static and in being so a trap that can be difficult to escape when you are in the pursuit or feel for whatever reason, good or bad, that you have reached that pinnacle for yourself.

Striving to be your best is admirable, but most often leads to disappointment in results. Who ultimately determines for you what exactly your best actually is? How is that determined? Are there specifics to that goal? Since we are each responsible for our own perceptions of ourselves and our productivity, outside influences aside, too often we fall into the prison of perfectionism instead of the free moving world of productivity. Your ego also come into play, and the lack of self-confidence in having actually become your best since we know our own faults and shortcoming better than anyone else can, makes this a nearly unattainable feat for most people. You also leave yourself open to self-recrimination. Feeling sorry for yourself or even angry with yourself for not completing a given task or not following through on a plan with as much effort as you possibly could have applied may seem lime humility or humbleness, but is is more likely to lead to wasted time and energy and provide more excuses for your lack of productivity instead of motivation.

On the other hand, if you are willing to accept two things about doing your best, you will find this a much more productive path.

Doing your best as your goal means you have to let go of doing it perfectly. For some this can be a paralyzing problem. Doing your best is also a moving target and must first be applied to your current situation and the time frame for completing a specific task. Your best means for right now, in this moment, with your currently available resources and skills. “Right now” is the important consideration. Getting caught up in “what if” or “If I had this” leads to procrastination and disappointment. Get going at doing your best with what you have and accept that you are doing all you can for the moment, for today, for this task at this moment. Doing your best in any given moment or situation allows for you to get your work done but leaves room for you to improve as you go or repeat tasks.

It is a difficult question to honestly ask and answer, but start your day or your work with the question of “what is the best thing I can be doing right now to get me to, or closer to, my goal. Then get to doing it as best you can. Doing your best does not mean perfect. It just means you have done your best in that moment.

Apply this approach to as many aspects of your day as possible. Make this the best job of brushing your teeth, straightening your work area, or talk with your friend that you can. You will feel better about your productivity and results, and others around you will as well.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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Miss Hitting Your Goals? Get Back on Track With These 3 Steps

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

When you miss your goal it is such a disappointment. But this feeling should not be allowed to linger. There are actually some bright spots that you can use to your advantage.

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Miss Hitting Your Goals? Get Back on Track With These 3 Steps

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009

When you miss your goal it is such a disappointment. But this feeling should not be allowed to linger. There are actually some bright spots that you can use to your advantage.

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Miss Hitting Your Goals? Get Back on Track With These 3 Steps

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

When you miss your goal it is such a disappointment. But this feeling should not be allowed to linger. There are actually some bright spots that you can use to your advantage.

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