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I have negative thoughts

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

Everyone has negative thoughts and doubts. Everyone. Do you think you are better than Mother Theresa? While the image most people have of her is one of constant kindness, humility, and hope, she famously admitted that there were times, more than a few, where she had negative thoughts and doubt not just about herself but even the Church, God, and the world and work she had done and was doing.

That may come as a shock to many people, with the 50,000 thoughts a day that the average person has, it is no wonder that at least some of them are going to be negative or less than positive or productive.

Having negative thoughts is not the problem in and of its self. Having them and then focusing on them, feeding them even, until they are the prevalent thoughts you are having is a problem, and all too often a totally paralyzing one at that.

Starting off with the proper mindset that not all your thoughts will be positive or productive is an important first step. No one expects all the traffic lights to be green on their drive to work, but still we are disappointed when they aren’t or even when they may all be green but one or two.

Does that really make any sense at all?

Granted, most people don’t agonize over the fact that one of the lights was red, but still that moment of negativity, disappointment, and even anger pops up even when we know deep down that the lights aren’t going to all go our way.

Usually those thoughts lesson or disappear as soon as you hit the next green light. But what happens if you hit two red lights in a row? There is often a snowball effect. Heaven forbid you should hit three or more in a row. From then on you are just blowing through the green lights that do come while strewing over the red ones in the past and looking ahead to when the next one is surely going to come.

Silly, isn’t it?

The same thing happens with negative thoughts. Even when we hit good thought – good thought (green light – green light), it only takes one negative thought to completely wipe out the good you just experienced.

Accept that negative thoughts will come. Let the negative thoughts pass and look for tyour next positive thought as soon as possible. Unlike green lights, positive thoughts are something you can control. You can even prepare them ahead of time to pull out when you need them.

We are not quite at the stage where you can prepare a green light to pull out whenever you need it, but till then, get your positive thought ready.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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How to deal with negative thoughts

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

What can you do to deal with negative thoughts? What do you do when other negative things happen to you? Perhaps the same thing will work for negative thoughts.

When you get dirt in your mouth, do you swill it around and savor it? I most certainly do not, and I’m pretty sure you don’t either. You spit it out, right? If the taste is really bad, do you just grab a mouthful of some other dirt,  to swill around in its place?

If you’re like me, you probably try to rinse you mouth with whatever liquid you have handy that is safe to drink.

If you knew you would get dirt in your mouth a lot, you would probably keep something you like handy to get that taste out of your mouth, wouldn’t you? If you didn’t, you would look pretty silly.

You don’t just swallow the dirt, try to internalize it either, do you?

Although you can probably try to limit the amount of dirt that gets in your mouth, you can’t eliminate the possibility of something going into your mouth that that sets off your taste buds in a negative fashion. You can of course reduce the risk, the amount, and the number of chances, but unless you live in a bubble and are fed the same food through a tube, you will have this risk.

Why is it then that when negative thoughts come, and they do come to everyone at some time or another, the tendency is to swill it around and savor it rather than spitting it out – letting go – and rinsing your mind with something to get that bad thought out?

Now you will have to proactive this a bit to get good at it and be prepared with your “brain rinse”, but it will work and work fast with just a little effort at first.

Stop now and choose your “brain rinse”. Pick a thought that is positive, about a success you have had, and make it as clear and precise as you possibly can. It can be a really long though. That’s no problem, and here’s why. After you have run the thought through in preparation a few times and refined it to some very specific images, emotions, and posture, choose a keyword or phrase from your brain rinse that out and use it as a trigger. Run the thought from the trigger, and continue to run it faster and faster.

Any time you find a negative thought creeping in, use your trigger to run the good thought and boot the negative thought. Remember you cannot replace something with nothing, so be prepared. It sounds simple, and it is. You will find your “brain rinse” will begin to come to you easier and faster as time goes by, and soon it will be an automatic response. Give it a try. You will banish those negative thoughts and get more done.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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Eliminating Negative Thoughts – How to get rid of negative thinking

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

Someone with obviously way too much time on their hands once estimated we have about 50,000 thoughts in a day. IT is really no wonder that not all of them are what we would label as positive or productive thoughts or thinking and range from “I really shouldn’t have done that” to “I’m the worst human being on the planet”.

First off, and not to be over-looked, everyone has negative thoughts. With that enormous number of thoughts pinging around in our brains every day, the law of averages are against all of them being positive. Some will be negative. You have to accept that. It’s not the fact that you have negative thoughts, but it is more about how deeply negative they are, how frequently they occur, and how they then affect your following thoughts and actions or reactions.

You can’t really banish all negative thoughts. They are going to come. You just need to be ready for them and pass over them and on to better more productive thoughts.

Let yourself admit that you will have negative thoughts, but set your mind to just accepting them and moving on as quickly as possible. The longer you dwell  on the negative thinking and images that enter your mind, the harder they are to let go of and to move on from them.

If you have a recurring negative thought, you can plan ahead. For example if you often get frustrated while performing a certain task and say to yourself, “Ack! I’m never going to get this right”, then simply be prepared to add to that thought a statement such as “as long as I keep doing it this way” or something silly like “and I’m never going to be able to fly”.

The key here is if you have the thought, laugh it off, brush it off, and do not dwell on it. You can also prepare yourself with a little positive thought to bump that out of the process. Think of something you are good at or that is a positive for you. Immediately after having the negative thought that tries to stick around, say to yourself this positive trait. It can be anything. It does not even have to be related. Maybe you make a mean brownie. Go with whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Make a list now of three to five positives you can use as defenders for when those negative thoughts come. Go through them one at a time. Sometime you may need to repeat several of them to counter-balance the last negative thought. No problem with that. Whatever it takes to get your mind off of the negative thought and onto something more positive, and more productive, just go with it.

You may find that those positives might start to lose their effectiveness, or just to change things up a bit, review this list of ideas and add new ones regularly. You will be surprised at how many you may be able to come up with as well.

Copyright 2011 Allen Williams

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Be Kind to Yourself and Overcome Low Self-Esteem

Friday, July 24th, 2009

How do you think you will every overcome your low self-esteem issues if you continue to harm yourself with your own aggressive negative self talk. You must stop this straight away and start being kinder to yourself. It might not seem easy to do right now, but once you recognise this pattern of behaviour, you will stop it straight way.

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Attracting Love – Can You Say "I Am Lovable" Without Wincing?

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

I am fat. I am poor. I am broke. I am worried. I am getting old.

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